Reflection on looking for a spouse

After reading the New York Times article, I wasn't socked at the marriage business because I have heard of it before when I was living in Shanghai. However I could not imagine myself paying companies such as the Diamond Love Marriage company to help me with it. I prefer seeking out for a possible "soulmate" myself through my work space or social circle.I don't like the idea of depending on someone else to do it for me. Suggestions are welcomed but no one takes control of my love life. I don't have any preset requirements for who I would want to marry because I don't know. I don't like setting standards because it may limits my choices. I believe that it is unlikely for me to rush into a relationship with someone I barely know. For me people grow on and the relationships through time. There was never a time i saw a girl and immediately decided that i would want to start a relationship with.